Skip to main content

Littlest's life lessons

Seven year olds ask the best questions.

Littlest had an appointment in the scoliosis clinic this morning and in the car on the way there, she asked, "Why is my back crooked? What happens if it gets more crooked? (pitch beginning to rise ...) Will I need an operation? (pitch even higher ...) Will I need to be put to sleep? (pitch so high now that she sounds like a cat that has just stepped on a hot coal ...) Will it mean needles?"

Seven year olds also race toward a conclusion, unnervingly always managing to find the one they like the least, so with her almost hysterical in the back of the car, I had to retreat rapidly from the thought of needles, and try to explain the different degrees of crookedness, with the reassurance that hers is such a minimal crookedness that probably none of her friends have noticed and it is unlikely to involve any operations ... or needles. Certainly not any time soon.

Then in clinic, while she coloured at the drawing table, a little girl with an extreme crookedness sat down next to her and  I could see Littlest thinking that's exactly what mum meant when she said my back wasn't very crooked. She squeezed her rabbit comforter and got on with colouring.

On the way home, Littlest confessed that she had found it hard not to look at the crooked little girl. "It's rude to stare," she said. "But when I was ... staring at her, I was thinking how lucky I am really."

The best questions, and sometimes the best lessons too.

Comments

Popular posts from this blog

Colour, Delacroix, flochetage and why don't we all have a go at inventing words

Yes - it is a real word. Flochetage. Well, a real-ish word. One invented by the painter Delacroix, when he found the dictionary cupboard bare and required a word to describe his technique of layering different coloured paints, using lightly pulled brush strokes to create texture and pattern and thereby enhance his base-layer colours (... lost? - stick around, read on and all will become clear. Or perhaps muddier ...). Flochetage implies both stringiness and threadiness. Apparently. And it sounds good - in a filling-the-mouth-with-sound sort of a way. Try it ... flochetaaaage. Not that I speak French. So I am probably mis-pronouncing it. Nor am I an artist. So what do I know about painting techniques - except that I think this one works. What I do like is the concept - you invent a new technique in whatever it is you do, hunt around for the vocabulary to describe it, find the dictionary is lacking, so make up a word of your own and announce to the world what it means. Delacroix isn...

Curlews, summer skies and walking in circles.

Summer skies over the Yorkshire Dales and my mind is set to rest mode. But that rest is not totally restful; there is a niggle ... a memory, a hint of childhood, something that unsettles slightly - a light brush stroke of discomfort; a gossamer breath of discombobulation and a 'Woah! Wait a moment!' moment of 'that's-not-right!' - we're about as far from the sea as it is possible to be in middle Britain and yet, I can hear the distinctive Peep! Peep! of oystercatchers and the piercing cry of curlew. Here -  in the blue skies of the North Yorkshire dales and along the footpaths - and above the endless miles of drystone walls are birds that should be at the coast.  Oystercatchers, with their distinctive red pliers attached to their heads feed on - you've guessed it - oyster beds. All along the coastline of the British Isles, their distinctive cry is the call of summer. Drowned out somewhat by the banter of seagulls but sharp and ...

Heaven clearly can't wait. Ranting and screaming inside. Growing old and lecturing ... myself, mostly.

What follows should come with a warning - it is a preachy rant. Stop now if you're not in the mood for a lecture. Or, if you're into procrasti-reading, read on and (hopefully) enjoy my latest piece of procrasti-writing. Apologies too for the reference to elderly leakages. And farts. And now, for being deeply irreverent. Sorry. Heaven  can't  wait. Meatloaf was wrong. Clearly the 'band of Angels' is impatiently putting together a gig. There's a party happening which we haven't been invited to. Yet. What a terrible year 2016 has been, so far. And we are barely dipping our winter-wrapped toes into Spring. Is it that the roll-call of those summoned to a higher place grows ever more poignant as we age? Prince was but a few years older than me. Victoria Wood, a meaningless number of years older still. Meaningless because what does age mean astride the long plateau of middle age before the eventual slide into decrepitude? A few years here, a few there - we...